Ships That Pass

Simon and I have been like ships that pass in the night this summer. Between the cottage, my trips up north with the kids, drives to Pennsylvania and back, and work days for both of us, we have spent more time apart than we have together.

Ships That PassAnd, tonight, the Universe, in all its profound wisdom, decided that we needed  a special night together.

Zachary, Michael and I arrived home from up north with minutes to spare before the neighbourhood birthday party to which they were both invited. We had just enough time to unpack before they were whisked off for hours to a trampoline and dinner party.

With Max at camp and Simon running an evening workshop, I found myself in a blissfully empty house. And, with two weeks of family holiday and uber-togetherness ahead of me, I really felt the perfection in the aloneness.

With Simon coming home for 8:00, I decided that I would use my time alone to sing along to my favourite music while cooking us a beautiful dinner. I had just shopped for the ingredients when Simon called to say he would be early.

And, as it turned out, there could not have been a more perfect ‘plan’.

We drank red wine and talked while I cooked and connected in a way that we have not had the chance for many weeks. And, as we sat down to our Goddess Bowls (thank you Lettuce Love Cafe for the inspiration, complete with the Lemon Tahini dressing), it felt like the perfect date!

Feeling happy, appreciative, connected, and in love with my husband.

Thank you to the Divine forces that decided it was time for the ships to pass on the same course! 🙂Coming Together

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The Invitation

I watched my sister get married three days ago. I watched as she joined her life with a man she loves deeply. I watched her nine-year-old daughter hold her hand all the way through the ceremony. And I watched as her beloved looked deep into her heart and said; ‘I do‘.

The InvitationThe sun was shining, the birds were singing and their backyard garden looked absolutely lovely.

It was one of those delightful casual weddings that probably only happens the second time around when the bride and groom have the wisdom and maturity to celebrate in a way that suits them just so. There was no formal seating during the ceremony so I got to stand right up front with my back to the fence and witness, at eye level, my sister’s dreams came true.

It just so happened that Simon was standing directly across from me on the other side of the garden.

It was such a gift to have the opportunity to watch Simon from afar during the ceremony. I had the chance to look at him and appreciate how handsome he looked in his gorgeous suit. I got to appreciate his warmth, his poise, his deep love of our nieces and nephews as he held our baby nephew for part of the ceremony. And, as my two sisters-in-law got up to read The Invitation so beautifully, I had the opportunity to lock eyes with him and speak volumes without one word being spoken between us.

After twenty-three years in relationship it is so easy to slide into the mundane; who unloads the dishwasher, who does the laundry and who pays the bills. It’s so easy to forget that those are not the most important things. The Invitation reminded me that it has only ever been about daring to dream, dancing with wildness, and standing in the centre of the fire without shrinking back.

Kind of feels like I got married the other day.

I love you Simon! xo:)invitation

 

To the Moon

Listen to the mustn’ts child. Listen to the don’ts.
Listen to the shouldn’ts, the impossibles, the won’ts.
Listen to the never haves, then listen close to me…
Anything can happen, child. Anything can be.”
― Shel Silverstein

My husband, Simon, lives his life in possibility. And, as a result, he sees the possibility for everyone around him. Simon sees possibility where others might see roadblocks. He sees opportunity where others might see uncertainty. Simon sees Radical change as the ultimate opportunity and he never has to work at looking on the bright side of personal transformation. Possibility

I have no idea how he does it, but Simon never even considers the possibility that people’s dreams, even the wildest ones, are not possible. So, as a result, Simon is the one that people call when they are considering Radical changes in their lives. He coaches them to be with change and helps them dream up possibilities that knock their socks off.  And he really and truly believes it!

Eight years ago I was an at-home mom who was struggling to find fulfillment in the life I had chosen. I knew I wanted to go back to work but I had no idea what I wanted to do. I felt a lack of direction and a head full of impossibilities. I was well and truly stuck.

It occurred to me one day that I needed a life coach. I wasn’t even sure what coaching was all about but I seemed to know I needed one. When Simon came home from work that day and I told him what I had decided, there were two possible responses he could have given me; the first one was that as an already maxed-out single-income family, the expense of a coach would be prohibitive and that maybe we could consider it when we were a little more financially solvent. The other possible response was; ‘okay then, let’s make it happen.’

I’m sure you can see where I’m going with this…Simon immediately gave me the second response and by the end of the next day he had searched out and sent me a whole list of coaches to consider. By the end of that week I had hired a coach and have never looked back. Working with a coach gave me the opportunity to grow and deepen my awareness of myself, to align my life to my values and to look at some emotional dark corners that needed illumination so that I could move forward.

One of the most significant aspects of hiring that coach was discovering that coaching was the profession that I had been searching for. Before long I enrolled in coaching training and have never looked back. Coaching makes my heart sing, it fulfills me, it balances me and lights me up like a firecracker. I am living the life of my dreams and coaching has helped me to get here.

What if, all those years ago, Simon had looked on the darker side? What if he had given me every argument against my gut instinct? What if he had unconsciously sabotaged my intuition? What if he had been practical and sensible and played it safe?

I know that Simon’s response that night was a moment of quantum shift in my life and I appreciate it and appreciate him more deeply than I can ever say.

And…if he came home from work tomorrow night and I said I wanted to fly to the moon? Simon would never dream of reminding me that I am not an astronaut or a billionaire or even a scientist. He would clap his hands together and say; ‘okay, Kate, how are we going to make that happen?’ To the Moon