“Listen to the mustn’ts child. Listen to the don’ts.
Listen to the shouldn’ts, the impossibles, the won’ts.
Listen to the never haves, then listen close to me…
Anything can happen, child. Anything can be.”
― Shel Silverstein
My husband, Simon, lives his life in possibility. And, as a result, he sees the possibility for everyone around him. Simon sees possibility where others might see roadblocks. He sees opportunity where others might see uncertainty. Simon sees Radical change as the ultimate opportunity and he never has to work at looking on the bright side of personal transformation.
I have no idea how he does it, but Simon never even considers the possibility that people’s dreams, even the wildest ones, are not possible. So, as a result, Simon is the one that people call when they are considering Radical changes in their lives. He coaches them to be with change and helps them dream up possibilities that knock their socks off. And he really and truly believes it!
Eight years ago I was an at-home mom who was struggling to find fulfillment in the life I had chosen. I knew I wanted to go back to work but I had no idea what I wanted to do. I felt a lack of direction and a head full of impossibilities. I was well and truly stuck.
It occurred to me one day that I needed a life coach. I wasn’t even sure what coaching was all about but I seemed to know I needed one. When Simon came home from work that day and I told him what I had decided, there were two possible responses he could have given me; the first one was that as an already maxed-out single-income family, the expense of a coach would be prohibitive and that maybe we could consider it when we were a little more financially solvent. The other possible response was; ‘okay then, let’s make it happen.’
I’m sure you can see where I’m going with this…Simon immediately gave me the second response and by the end of the next day he had searched out and sent me a whole list of coaches to consider. By the end of that week I had hired a coach and have never looked back. Working with a coach gave me the opportunity to grow and deepen my awareness of myself, to align my life to my values and to look at some emotional dark corners that needed illumination so that I could move forward.
One of the most significant aspects of hiring that coach was discovering that coaching was the profession that I had been searching for. Before long I enrolled in coaching training and have never looked back. Coaching makes my heart sing, it fulfills me, it balances me and lights me up like a firecracker. I am living the life of my dreams and coaching has helped me to get here.
What if, all those years ago, Simon had looked on the darker side? What if he had given me every argument against my gut instinct? What if he had unconsciously sabotaged my intuition? What if he had been practical and sensible and played it safe?
I know that Simon’s response that night was a moment of quantum shift in my life and I appreciate it and appreciate him more deeply than I can ever say.
And…if he came home from work tomorrow night and I said I wanted to fly to the moon? Simon would never dream of reminding me that I am not an astronaut or a billionaire or even a scientist. He would clap his hands together and say; ‘okay, Kate, how are we going to make that happen?’